Decision-Making Advise

which way to go?I use this simple exercise with clients and myself when worry and stress about ‘doing it wrong’ is the prevalent fear. The fact is that we cannot ‘do it wrong’ no matter what ‘it’ is because we never know what would have occurred had we done it some other way.

“If there is something that you have to do, resist the temptation to do it under duress. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst thing that would happen if I didn’t do this?” And if you can get away with not doing it at all, don’t do it. And then imagine what would it feel like to have this done. Spend a day or two, if you can, just 15 minutes here, 5 minutes here, 2 minutes here, here and here, imagining it completed in a way that pleases you! And then, the next time you decide that you’re going to take action about it, the action is going to be a whole lot easier.” ~Abraham

Points to Remember: 

  1. ‘Wrong’ decisions provide opportunities to make lemonade out of lemons.
  2. A ‘wrong’ decision will build strength and character as yet unknown to you.
  3. ‘Wrong’ decisions pave the way to wisdom.
  4. What can you add???

 

Awfulizing

We scare, and sometimes terrorize ourselves with our own fears.  Fear is always about the future.  I call it ‘awfulizing’. 

This is what I’ve experienced:   When it came to pass (if it occurred at all), no situation or circumstance ever turned out to be as frightening as I had anticipated. 

While in the midst of most situations that I have feared, I was so focused on the moment that I did not have time to be afraid; I was in action.  I found myself stepping up to the plate and doing what needed to be done. Sometimes it was exciting; sometimes it was challenging; and, I always survived to live another day. 

These experiences have taught me valuable life lessons.

What’s been your experience with fear?

To Celebrate or Not to Celebrate; is that really in question?

man w megaphoneThe death of Osama Bin Laden has caused mixed reactions among us.  Some people are   celebrating. I believe that in America we are long overdue for some incident to bring us together in joy, and folks will grab at an event like this and make it a cause.   

Bin Laden’s demise may be a political victory.  But since politics is not my game, I am devoid of any feelings of peace or joy regarding the situation. The quote below, by Martin Luther King, Jr.,  resonates with me and perfectly reflects how I feel.  No way could I say it better in my own words.

king“I mourn the loss of thousands of precious lives, but I will not rejoice in the death of one, not even an enemy. Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that.”